by Angela Hoffman
If you are like me, you have a BIG DREAM. It’s something that you feel called to do, compelled to do…and just thinking of your BIG DREAM makes you sweat! (oops, make that Glisten). You know it’s a BD (aka big dream) when your soul sings at the thought of going after it — and it scares you silly at the same time. The thing about this dream is that it doesn’t let go. It’s God tapping you on your shoulder. It’s a calling to use your spiritual gifts, to go after something that calls you to be part of something bigger than yourself. And it’s annoying because it doesn’t go away. Our BD calls us to move, but we often feel paralyzed.
Two years ago, I was working away at my day job, doing my best each day to provide excellent service to clients. I knew there was something more for me, but I wasn’t sure what.
And then I heard about coaching. It was a way to make a difference in people’s lives on a profound level. As soon as I went to my first class of the program, I knew my BD. I wanted to strike out on my own and be a Certified Coach. BIG DREAM. Big fears, too.
Was I scared? Absolutely. Was I excited? Beyond my wildest dreams. I had to step into that place of going after that BD in the face of uncertainty and unknowns. Even with all the emotional intensity, I can tell you with certainty that it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Here’s the thing about pursuing BIG DREAMS: They require us to step out of our comfort zone, to take risks, and to be BOLD. BD’s require faith, perseverance, and action. Scary stuff!
Here’s the good news. I’m here to tell you that it IS possible to go after your dreams. It IS possible to be bold. I know, my friends. I have been there, and I learned how to take bold action even through fear and doubt. It is not easy, but it does get better with practice. Really! The feeling of accomplishment each time I finished a course, made a new connection, and completed a step in my business plan helped to build my confidence. If I can do it, you can too!
Here’s what I found out about Boldness: You get to decide what “being bold” means to you. Feelings of fear and doubt are normal responses to change. Let me repeat that: normal. To overcome those feelings, take your BD and figure out just one action to take towards that dream. Any time you take a brand new step, you are being bold! One definition of boldness that I love is “having courage and taking risks.” The risk does not have to be huge; trust yourself to know how much risk is just right. It’s the Goldilocks Principle. Not too much, not too little, but just right for you. Practice taking one new step.
I love the notion of practicing new actions. It takes pressure off somehow and brings a lightness to what you decide to do. Try some of these on for size:
- Want to start a new career? “Today I will practice submitting an application for college.”
- Have an important message in your heart that needs to be shared? “Today I will practice talking to my friends about my idea for a nonprofit group.”
- Want to start a business? “Today I will practice writing down my vision and mission statement.”
Now it’s your turn. Take the first Bold step by proclaiming your BIG DREAM. What is it you would like to do, to pursue, to experience? Say it out loud: I want to ______________.
If you experience fear or your voice wavers, say it again. Practice saying it with conviction.
Say it in faith knowing that your BD is in your heart for a reason.
Congratulations! High-five yourself for a bold job well-done.
New blog articles coming soon!
I have a lot more to offer you about the concept of boldness, how to define it on your own terms and how to take action. I’ll also be writing about how to silence that voice in your head that wants to push your confident self down and keep you from your BD. Stay tuned, and be well in your new-found boldness!